Listen just to listen, don’t worry about your response. People enjoy having someone who listens and thinks about what they’re saying. By listening to them talk and say whatever is on their mind and thinking about what they’re saying they can feel you thinking about them and it makes them feel closer to you. Visualize what they say. Feel/imagine yourself experiencing their experiences, living in their shoes. Relate what they say to yourself, to times in your life. But allow them to share everything on their chest before feeling like you have to interject with something interesting or clever. If you think of something relevant wait before sharing wait till it feels like the right moment for them. The more you listen you may think of something even better even more relevant that would’ve never crossed your mind. Don’t worry about having a clever response to everything. It feels good just to be together and just to have someone who will hear us out, someone we can share deep things with, things others don’t have time for, that others might judge us for. Listen without judgment trust that the other is as deep and wise as you are or deeper and wiser, yet living in different circumstances, make no assumptions and trust that there’s much they have experienced that you have not, just as you have experienced much they have not. It is fun and healing just to hear their story, just to be there to have some of that experience, years of their life, their different and or related experiences, downloaded into you for free without judging it or seeing yourself as better than it. Not a competition about who suffered the most we become happier and stronger when we realize that we are all in this together. When we see each other as it equals deep healing happens, we thrive off each other’s energy and we are lifted much higher then we can ever go by fighting and competing with each other. No one is better. It feels good for the other person just to get it off their chest. And when we listen without worrying about a response we end up noticing a lot more, we pick up a lot more in the conversation. Listen with your heart.