I don’t try to convince myself I am not afraid. And that everything is ok. I can’t “tell” myself what is. and what is not. Ultimately…. truth can not be “told”. at the end of the day It can only be felt. So Instead. I notice the fear. Allow the fear. Face the fear. Don’t fear the fear. It is like “fear on top of fear”, I once described it. Fear fighting fear inside me. Fear itself is not your enemy. Fearing fear. that is control. Let in the fear. Allow it too happen. Let the universe show you the way. It feels like a mistake. Like weakness I should not have. Why am I afraid. Does this even make sense. I don’t want to recognize this truth about myself. that i am so week as to be afraid even under normal circumstances. so i block it out. ignore it. Yet letting it is the only way to learn from it. I feel afraid. I feel a calling to be something more. yet am afraid to take it. It is something i can’t know. yet i feel it so clearly. To ground yourself, and connect to something even deeper, to begin to get underneath it, to understand it as a feeling, as a series of events in time and space, and not just as words in my mind. It may change you. the triggers of the fear, they may seem random, but to notice it, the forces around you that create fear, may mean opening yourself to something you have not understood about yourself before. to see something deeper about yourself. how it effects they way you respond to things. my mind has many solutions and ideas. which one is right? for many weeks months and even years i have wondered. it is almost as though i have too many right answers. many good answer, yet i can’t remember them all. which one is the one i need now? i am good at inventing solutions. but suddenly none of them feel right. the floating mask is also like my shadow self. the me in me that gets in the way. the me i could turn out to be “should i fail” and chose fear. the tentacles that come out of the back of the blank mask. the face represents someone who has no identity. And the tentacles show how this person is “plugged in”, they take joy from the outside, who relies on external things to be happy. so much so that it has become automated. i have all these solution’s. 1 2 and 3. yet it is only because i have turned away from the fear. turned my mind away from what i am feeling. the fear is represented by a face. aka “facing the fear” the face of the fear. the face also represents the person i want to be. and the person i am afraid i will not become. it is so much more then what i can put into words. on the left the little bubbles represent my efforts to control the situation. they seem organized and cute. but they end up becoming very distracting. very illusive. they only pull me away from my truth. revealed to be ultimately nothing more then words. I have dived into my mind, and turned away from the events in life and the events around me. i gaze into hypothetical worlds of things i “could do” and “could have done”. I explore past archives, and become more and more lost, when what i need is to be in the present moment. In my dreams i search my old room, hoping to find something important, yet finding nothing but an old shoe. strange.. Why was it so importation that i look for that? When i face the fear. the feeling. the visual elements, the non verbal stuff that exist before and beyond thoughts words and human langues. the truth of it all. the currents of emotion that run underneath the words. when i look at that feeling. suddenly my mind goes quite. there is nothing left to think about. nothing left to now. Sometimes I sketch images like this. These two were the most helpful. out of hundreds. simple yet effective. it is a kind of “mind map”. I try to draw out what seems to be going on. “What is natural?” I ask myself. After lots of thinking, i am no closer to the truth of this. Finally. I step out of the way. and allow nature to heal me. that has been the best think i can do i have realized. Step out of the way. and allow nature to heal you. In my dream i am trying to mentor a friend who struggles with a complex problem. but as i speak i notice there are contradictions in my thinking, they seem to grow in number and it is hard to clearly explain “the way” to him. then i am interrupted. and when i return. he has found peace. without my help. he is happily engaged in conversation. nature found a way. and i didn’t intervene. how can i become better at not “intervening” in natures process. not trying to control the flower of life that wishes to bloom all by itself. the creative river that flows when i am true to myself. how can i allow nature to do the work. without getting in the way? without thinking and second guessing. My whole life has felt like one big intervention from some outside force. I came into this world learning many stilted and unnatural habits. Learning to accomplish through effort and will power. to succeed by ignoring my feelings. It is even more true then, that I find ways to not stop the process. to allow nature to thrive. without altering, calculating, controlling, editing, and second guessing. Why do bad things happen. I wonder. how can i know the answer to that? why do i want or expect there to be an answer. does it even matter? i am full of regret. the chaos it to much for me to control it all. yet i feel like i should be able to. the pain is too great. .and i know i am not ready to face it. life hits me with things i know i am not ready for. yet i feel there is a way. i have to let go of my mind. let go of control. There are regrets. many feelings. if only life could just be easy. what is the real lesson here? it is good to slow down and make time for these questions. there may be no answer. can i live with that? can i move forward in life without needing a simple answer? Who am i in relationships to this fear. what does it feel like to be me again? when the fear has taken hold for so long. such a long history of letting the fear win. allowing it to make my world small. How has the fear been limiting who i am. and would the fear go away, if i was simply to spend more time being myself. feeling what it feels like to be free again. not needing a reason to be free. but simply being free. There are many confusing choices ahead. But in all choices. put your health first. This is what i am learning. Health comes first, in all areas of life. and that is a feeling. the feeling lets me know what is working and what is not. I am leaning not to control. To “let the situation play out” in all it’s complexity. Whatever that situation may be. Often many traumas are layered together in this giant vortex of ongoing trauma in life. Each time i have a small victory i want to quantify it. To give it a name. a label. So i can use it again. I want a cure to the vortex. But the vortex is always in motion. Life has many moving parts. I expand my awareness and i weigh my options. what is working. what needs to change. Sometimes i find that i choose a difficult solution in favor of an easy one. i have grown up all my life learning that hard work is the way to get results. So it is actually not natural for me to accept an easy answer for a new problem or situation. Because it is so normal, and because it doesn’t make sense, i may not realize that i am doing this. that i am choosing a harder solution to a more solvable problem. Sometimes an easy answer can be the right one. it feels like i have to write books to be happy, but sometimes just a few paragraphs does something to the energy. shifts my awareness and puts me in touch with myself. it isn’t about the quantity. it is about being honest with how i feel and what is getting in my way in the bigger picture. as in who i am as a person. my physical body and my health. i am unblocking the energy. And i have to keep reminding myself to pause. To create space. To not try to control the situation. To quantify it all into a single word. As unintuitive as that may be. To get in control, by giving up control. To let go of the answer and the knowledge. to recognize that often they are not the solution and in fact an act of control, the very thing that is holding me back. and let nature heal me. heal itself.
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