Trading in Better Judgment to get High on Group Opinions; the riptide of an unrealized/unfun and overly disciplined community
When groups gather and unite in their beliefs it creates a high feeling in every person. This can be amazing. Yet this also has a history of backfiring, in cases of Natzis or people ‘drinking the kool-aid’, people disregard science, their own intuition or health, or the heath of outsiders for the sake of uniting in their group, the high feeling this brings. The group mind-frame or shared opinion itself becomes magnetic powerful even addictive, because thinking of it links us back to all those memories and feelings of the energy that came from people, we associate the idea, the pill, the chore or the activity with the energy high.. instead of associating that good feeling with people themselves; we become intoxicated on whatever the group thinks, even when it is detrimental the the planet.
Some of these group mentalities are obvious, like when people used to believe the earth was flat or the earth was the center of the universe and reject other ideas or people that still don’t believe in evolution… yet many of these ‘group mentalities’ that are just as absurd remain hidden, they have a way of blending in and seeming passable if you are not the victim of them, we don’t notice the suffering this copycat behavior causes. They get taken for fact. Sometimes we distrust even our long term friends in favor of mass public opinion, the things our fathers were told by their fathers who were told by there fathers. Things doctors told other doctors. And scholars told other scholars. “It is true… because they have a PHD. Argo, what they say = true.” “This idea has been around, it has ‘worked’ for so many hundreds or thousands of years, so that must be proof of it’s effectiveness” we naturally think, yet an underlying element is being masked, the contagiousness of mass human thinking, and the tendency to cling to the familiar in favor of the unknown. The familiar is safe. It has been ‘good enough’ for the ‘majority’ for ‘majority’ of the time. And what about those ‘suicide rates’ in the world… those poor people, people without a choice or a hope, well… that’s on them bro. “That’s their fault for not trying harder.” yeah really. that’s what those with comfortable lifestyles would say. Even if what society does is “good enough” for the “many” there sill are huge demographics and populations that came into the world never standing a real change of survival or joy or giving back to the world in a way that makes them happy.
We hold onto the ‘familiar’, even to our detriment. The heart thrives on movement, change and play, this kind of ‘free form’, creative, silly human interaction.. without judgment without control… yet the fear of uncertainty exists on mass scale, it holds us back from our potential. It creates these large channels of control behavior throughout society. This needs a good term like ‘herd mentally’ or ‘mimesis’ or lemming behavior.. Perhaps ‘social riptide’. It’s like the undercurrent of something that is mostly good. I’ve also called it a false reward system, we keep coming back for a reward that seems close but is really impossibly far away, a horse that is chasing a carrot on a string. Countless people are pulled into these ruts of absurd routines that we all know don’t really make sense, yet it is just so hard to shift them, it’s easier to comply and accept our pay at the end of the day. We trade in fact or our better judgment, the whisper our heart is telling us.. for an pseudo feeling of contentedness created through preforming tasks that masses of others also take part in, it creates this sense of unity and power that is real, it adds up to being ‘good enough’ yet it prevents us from really questioning some of these menial tasks and beliefs, we give up on there being something better. The world is full of many depleted or even injured people that are being treated like they have some kind of mental problem. Some peoples lives are so devoid of fun and friendship that it becomes physically damaging over the years, then they are given some random label out of a hat like “autistic, add, bi-poloar, adhd, schizophrenic, psychotic, borderline personality” it gets repeated and repeated.
We are taught simplistic and pointless skills we already know. Treated like we are much less capable then we are. When I see a seriously injured or starving person I sometimes make the joke to myself “he must be autistic” because this is basically the way doctors think. It’s a cruel joke so I don’t say it, yet people are starving without relationship or meaning in their lives, living in constant low energy and stress.. and doctors call them “autistic”, they might as well be starving or victims of war and disease. This thinking keeps us focused on our own problems, it keeps us ‘self-improving’ instead of focusing on positive self image, having an I’m ‘already awesome’ mentality that is needed for healing, it keeps us insecure, it might all be ok if there was more value in creating fun safe healthy relationships in society. We learn to ‘prove’ our worth to other people, instead of how to enjoy being around people, we feel we are not ‘exciting’ or important enough already, we get caught in a stress loop of always improving, it’s never enough, it prevents us from taking time to really enjoy the feeling of having fun with others day after day, from that fun really charisma can blossom.
Yesterday someone my mom hired was teaching me how to “ask for things” so much of my life has been spent learning things I already know. At one point in high school someone came to my house to teach me how to sound out consonants and vowels, as though school wasn’t already an endless overflow of dry lifeless data. That was so random and condescending and my friend came over and had to just sit there watching it happening… trying to understand in her mind ‘why’… well i guess “he must need this” the only logical conclusion…
It feels like there just aren’t enough places where people gather just to have fun, there is always some demeaning label attached like “we are here to fix your learning disability or social disability” or something. These terms teach people they aren’t equal, they don’t have worth, they have to spend life “overcoming” themselves, overcoming something basic in their bodies, that we should dislike our selves or our own minds, this is a stressful way to live. You need to really love your body and mind, to see yourself as brilliant, (even if you have some sever brain damage) we really need this type of self loving view to heal. The ‘self-imploring’ view sounds great, yet it is a stressful way to live. I was just watching an interview and I read in the comments that the actor was diagnosed with schizophrenia. Great yet another person diagnosed with some redicilious disorder. As though he has ‘two personalities’. He probably just got tired over years of being teased for his unpopular roll, maybe years of being lonely, not finding meaning in our twisted society. You could call it ‘two personalities’ or you could just call it being angry. More like being really really angry and defeated in life.
Just doing what the group is doing all the time … it becomes too contrived, even when it sounds ‘right’ on the surface… we are all doing this because it is ‘right’, yet it can be ‘good enough’.. Being alone feels liberating at first (like when Elsa ‘lets it go!’), we can finally do whatever free creative thing we want, yet soon this too doesn’t feel right, we become lonely, worse, we become empty. Now we are just very alone. Our deep true enjoyment can only be found in private on a consistent basis, we forget that we can really ‘enjoy’ our-self around others in the struggle and chaos and conformity of it all. Either way we can’t win. Eventually we crawl back to society.
…There is a third option, to change society, but it doesn’t have to be all that overwhelming. Change society, or at lest, change the way you relate to it, not get pulled into the pressures that don’t feel right, yet still deeply relax and enjoy the company of people. It can start simply by changing the way we are around people. The ripple effect of an attitude, a way of being, and small daily actions. Change the world in little ways each day, make life better, for yourself and others, starting as simply as just ‘feeling’ what it is like to enjoy yourself.
We get this natural ‘high’ from connecting to ‘society’ simply because it involves many many people, we are this ‘social species’ weather we like it or not… yet that society that feels good instinctively to connect to… it is also full of habit, automation, drone behavior that is no where never its full creative potential. We trust the ‘word,’ the rules of society, when it is really the people in that society that are giving us the good feeling. That feeling is just the tip of what it could be, if each person followed their creative impulse together in the group. Having fun on the large adult scale is considered so unconventional in our current world. We can shift society.
The sleeping impulse for fun is in everyone. Our creative and compassionate potential is untapped in part because of the weight of the ancient patterns of many minds. And also because it is part of our learning. Having fun on the group scale is a technology in a way. A method of harnessing human energy. I call it the ‘light-play intelligence’. It is an intelligence of the heart. The heart is like an engine that runs on the ‘dual fuel’ of human energy and having fun. Having fun means having fun, yet also finding the fun in the practical tasks of life. It is natural, yet it can be learned. Learning why fun matters makes us more resilient to the habitual patterns that try to dry up our good time. Shifting just 10% of society is a movement for example, it is enough to make the spread become increasingly contagious. Putting values like self love self kindness, community creativity and equality first. So many people think they need to be better stronger faster smarter, the stressful rat race to nowhere. We can reprogram the world, we start by simply believing it is possible each day. Giving it time even when the effects seem small. The ripple effect is small at first yet it becomes increasingly powerful.